His family would get so angry about it when he was younger. As someone who doesnt use any scented products, I can say that any smells I come across seem to linger longer for me than most people since its now such a shock to my system. He probably has a sick crush on you. Wash and dry clean any clothing that you wear thats kept in your office. Whatever brand they use has a very off putting smell. Love the Smelly LW title! ), just so she can say shes done everything she can. Ive done X, Y, and Z. Using Chat for Office Communication. They feel so over-the-top as to be completely unreasonable to ask of a coworker. Sniffing is one of my triggers to, whenever I her even one small sniff I get a huge panic attack. So I do what I can to not work right next to those coworkers with triggering scents, and ignore the ones that are just annoying or that I just dont like. I remember a news story about one scent-allergic student who simply couldnt be accommodated by her university. I understand that fragrances can be bothersome (I dont like many of them myself), but the coworker needs to define whether this goes beyond plain bothersome into I-cannot-concentrate territory. I think the OP has already gone above and beyond, but it wouldnt be a bad idea to dot the remaining is and cross the remaining ts (air fresheners at home, in public restrooms, or in the car, dryer sheets, etc. My mom says the same thing about Caress body wash. Handling 'Gross' Things Can Be Tricky for HR Advice for HR professionals. This was my initial thought as well. I hadnt thought about what a can of worms that would be! OK, you are unlikely to see this, but I *love* chicken. If your office is small, and earbuds and relocation are not an option, you should discuss your frustration with your manager, who may or may not bring your coworker into the discussion to explain. AlsoI used (briefly, because I am sensitive to Aluminium) a non-scented deodorant (Toms I think) and after 5 daysit had a smell and that smell was on me. When I mentioned it to the host, she looked baffled and said she couldnt smell anything. I told my supervisor and somehow it got handled. Yeah, I use some pretty cheap shampoo/conditions (yay Suave!) We ended up deciding to go scent free office because both of them was sensitive to different things. Several of the ingredients they use are irritants to lungs and eyes, several others are known allergens, and some of them are linked to neurotoxicity. They were everywhere. I am 30 years old and I have been told that I sniff constently in my sleep. Psychiatry 22 years experience. Theres nothing wrong with OP coworker is being a jerk. I think Ive only asked someone once to stop wearing her perfume (I only worked in that office a few days a month so I figured she could maybe just not wear it those days, and she generally didnt after that which I really appreciated.) And I can completely relate to her rudeness. I switched to unscented laundry stuff, shampoo, body wash and antiperspirant but the complaints continued. That said, I do have scented shampoo because there are like 3 on the market that are unscented, most of which I cant afford. This may have already been mentioned, but the co-worker said the scent was bothering her. Bothering her as in I dont like that scent or bothering her as in I get debilitating migraines and cannot work due to that scent? There is a big difference. My office got new carpet and my other pregnant co-worker and I had to work from home for a week because we couldnt deal with the smell. Your coworker may just be associating you with whatever smell she didnt like before. *grin*. Thats why I like Alisons advice. And a lot of it just depends on if it is normal to you. Though we also had an open thread commenter who had smell problems that it seemed might be due to her vinegar rinses, so Id say go easy on those too. So shes either exaggerating (because of being a jerk) or to be slightly more charitable shes now got herself into such a state of snittitude that she now genuinely smells patchouli where none exists, e.g., in a mildly lemon-scented body wash. Its not a neutral and pleasant sort of floral whatever. If the goal was to get me to move to another desk that would be a great way to accomplish it! Oh, like I can use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer and I can use neutragena sensitive skin sunscreen, but if I use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer with sunscreen, I break out in a horrible painful rash. I am so so sorry. JEREMY SAYS: It's possible, but extremely unlikely, that all this grunting, snorting and nose-picking is done knowingly and specifically with the intention of irritating you. Other commenters have made some potentially useful suggestions about other sources of scent; however, my reading of this is that your coworker is being a jerk. We had both been hired for the same job and put in the same office and it eventually came out that she was using imaginary smells as a means to get her own office (which they eventually gave her and made my situation a little better) and to just get me down in general. I wonder if OP has tried washing her clothes with a diluted vinegar mix? If its at the point where its only popping up twice over a few months, and your coworker is upset that you keep bringing it up because she feels shes addressed it, it seems like your coworker has done what she can and it would be a good idea not to bring it up with her anymore. If anything, Ive been thanked by the majority of the office for saying something. Theyre going to keep pushing and pushing until either they 100% get their way, or the person accommodating them says no, Ive done enough for you, thats all your getting., For the record, I love the phrase go pound sand. Thats trueif I use even diluted vinegar I have to rewash after with normal detergent (unscented is fine). I have encountered commenters, here and on Corporette, who fully believe that scent free is the way to be, and that the world would be better if everyone cut scented products out of their lives. LW has done quite a lot to accommodate her coworker, who really does sound like a jerk. It came on after a bad cold last year. It didnt occur to me because we do work closely on my project, but I guess theres no reason that necessarily has to be physical closeness. Because unless the company is paying a fortune in extra costs, carpet cleaners are awful for people who are scent reactive. But seriously? Certainly the OP cant be the only person who, although she has made Herculean efforts to go scent-free, has some sort of body-wash/laundry/dryer sheet scents lingering. I worked in a department that she visited maybe once a week. She should take this up with the manager, not with you directly, and certainly not with little cutting comments instead of direct requests. First of all, if there REALLY is a smell, even a very faint one, that shes making a big deal about it, you have shown her that you are and have dealt with it and now the matter is settled. Maybe you should get your nose checked out!) or tell her to cut it out (X, I stopped wearing that when you originally asked me to. My best advice is to follow Alisons script and see if being told nicely that youve done what you can, and that she needs to quit bullying you. I think considerate coworkers like you should do what they can to help out other coworkers, but at the same time, you shouldnt have to give up something you enjoy using in your free time because of a work conflict. Im 35 years old. My wife gave up chewing gum around me years ago, before I realized I was the one with the problem. Call Him on It. I am sensitive to some smells, but nothing compares to my sensitivity to patchouli- its really bad and triggers an almost instant headache that progresses to a migraine if I dont move away from the patchouli smell. My mom swears up and down that baby powder smells like dirty diapers because she so strongly associates the two. Thats really interesting. In those cases, if I have to eat around those people, I spend a LOT of time getting up to use the bathroom, flitting around the room to tidy/wash dishes, and otherwise avoiding and noise-covering as covertly as possible until it ends.). I dont get how it is different than a person who has to use a wheelchair or hearing aids. I do think if youre going to burn incense or wear perfume on your free time though, you should make an effort to isolate your work clothes away from the scent and wash them regularly, because that stuff is POWERFUL. Your box of tissues has become your closest companion (and admit it your sleeve has been called in to pinch hit on a couple of terrible occasions). Its not anything shes doing wrong, of course, but the sound makes me nauseated and irrationally angry. People often turn to over-the-counter nasal sprays to clear a stuffed-up nose. ), so part of me wonders if shes just being nasty or if another coworker is wearing those scents and shes just assuming its OP. Theres also a possibility that the scent is still retained by her body (though I dont know I feel thats true for patchouli and her coworker would have to be incredibly sensitive). I actually have a diminished sense of smell but patchouli is one scent that penetrates my nose. Manners Mentor, Inc.: Bodily Noise Etiquette Really! If your general practitioner cant get to the bottom of it, an ENT or allergist should be your next stop. Fortunately he was in no way attached to the stuff hed been using, but if I slept in his bed I got a rash from his sheets. Thats very possible. Or, you could treat it like other medical accommodations, and look to HR for guidance on how to make things work. The only thing I can think of is that it was not washed as much as the other clothed. Exactly. Im not allowed to wear headphones at work, but occasionally when the boss is out I sneakily put some on anyway and I can hear her sniffling even with white noise, pink noise, and any kind of music at full blast. Does coworker comment on every male in the office that uses cologne or Old Spice deodorant? Exactly. Yup. 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